Ask Elisa: Dating Stories and Advice
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Ask Elisa is a modern dating and relationships podcast featuring authentic interviews, relatable stories, practical advice, and plenty of humor. Feminist and LGBTQIA friendly space
Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.
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Episodes

7 hours ago
7 hours ago
1 hr 4 min
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In this episode, Carla Romo shares the bumpy road of codependency she followed before becoming a certified dating and relationship coach and published author. I had a blast talking to Carla and even got a taste of her coaching toward the end of the episode.
Visit Carla's website: www.carlaromo.com
Find her social media: @iamcarlaromo
Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to askelisapodcast@gmail.com or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.
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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Sep 9, 2026
Sep 9, 2026
59 min
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In this episode, Emmy tells the story of how her relationship shifted after they got engaged. And it was not in a good way. She had to do the hard thing and call it off. Emmy is my youngest guest. She's 27 years old. I chose to have Emmy on the show because she made such a brave choice at a young age.
I'm really impressed by the self-awareness Emmy shows in her social media videos @whosonmyroster. Emmy also started the platform called Roster, a personal dating journal. It's so cool!
Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to askelisapodcast@gmail.com or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.
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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Sep 2, 2026
Sep 2, 2026
35 min
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You got a match! Now what? The goal of this episode is to help you feel more confident during the initial chatting phase after matching on a dating app. I cover tips for your opening message, questions to ask, basic dos and don'ts, and taking the step to set up a first date.
There will be more Dating 101 episodes going into detail of first dates, communication, stopping situationships, and more.
Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to askelisapodcast@gmail.com or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.
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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Aug 26, 2026
Aug 26, 2026
49 min
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This is the Part 2 of Chrys's story. Chrys shares ways the Gamer has popped up after she broke things off and the work she's doing to heal. Chrys also reflects on the red flags and warning signs that she can see now.
Thank you so much to Chrys for sharing her story with the Ask Elisa community.
National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 or Text 88788
Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to askelisapodcast@gmail.com or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.
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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Aug 19, 2026
Aug 19, 2026
56 min
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This is the Part 1 of Chrys's story. Hear how Chrys met "Gamer" and how the relationship worked for three years until the day Chrys got a message from a woman on Instagram. In Part 2, Chrys will share what it's been like moving on from the traumatic experience and reflect on the red flags and warning signs that she can now see more clearly.
Thank you so much to Chrys for sharing her story with the Ask Elisa community.
National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 or Text 88788
Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to askelisapodcast@gmail.com or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.
Want to be a guest on Ask Elisa? Complete the Guest Interest Form
Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast
www.askelisapodcast.com
Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Aug 12, 2026
Aug 12, 2026
26 min
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The dating apps are terrible! Exhausting! Modern dating is the WORST! Yes, I hear you. But what can we actually do about it? This episode walks you through some ways to shift your dating mindset and set boundaries to improve your dating experience. There will be more Dating 101 episodes going into detail of first dates, communication, stopping situationships, and more.
Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to askelisapodcast@gmail.com or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.
Want to be a guest on Ask Elisa? Complete the Guest Interest Form
Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast
www.askelisapodcast.com
Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Aug 5, 2026
Aug 5, 2026
58 min
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In this episode of Ask Elisa, I talk with my guest Sarah about how she became a self-proclaimed "Cougar." After taking time to focus on being a mom, Sarah decided to start dating in her early 40s, and learned that she liked dating younger men and that younger men like dating older women. Find Sarah on Tiktok @sarahisoverstimulated
The listener question that Sarah and I tackle is, "How important is it to get closure?"
Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to askelisapodcast@gmail.com or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.
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Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast
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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Jul 29, 2026
Jul 29, 2026
21 min
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This is the first of the Dating 101 episodes! The most common question I get from listeners and social media followers is how to start dating. Many people become single after a long term relationship and have never dated before. So this episode is a guide to help you take those first steps to start dating again. There will be more Dating 101 episodes going into detail of first dates, communication, dating anxiety, and more.
Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to askelisapodcast@gmail.com or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.
Want to be a guest on Ask Elisa? Complete the Guest Interest Form
Find Ask Elisa online @askelisapodcast
www.askelisapodcast.com
Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Jul 22, 2026
Jul 22, 2026
1 hr 59 sec
This is a SPICY episode! I talk with Chrys about her experience in an open relationship, practicing ethical non-monogamy, dating, divorce, the kink community, and more. I had so much fun talking with Chrys!
The listener question that Chrys and I tackle is "In the early stages of dating, how do you know when to call it? So often, the other person is great and nothing is wrong with them and I just don't know if I should keep giving them a chance or just say I'm not feeling it."
Send in your dating dilemmas & questions to askelisapodcast@gmail.com or through social media direct messages to have Elisa and a guest share their response on a future episode.
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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.

Jul 20, 2026
Jul 20, 2026
24 sec
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Ask Elisa is a feminist podcast about dating and relationships. Find humor and connection in discussions that challenge outdated gender roles, traditional narratives, and patriarchal expectations. Episodes include dating stories, dilemmas, and questions sent in from listeners. Join Ask Elisa for the laughs, stay for the honesty, and leave feeling a little less alone.
I’m your host, Elisa Sparkman. I found myself unexpectedly single right before my 40th birthday. Now with two years of dating behind me (plus a divorce and handful of break ups), I wanna talk about it! Join me for honest conversations about modern dating, divorce, dating apps, gender dynamics, situationships, red flags, boundaries, and building healthier relationships.









